There is nothing more wonderful than giving our lives to Jesus! However, this new life brings up the question of dating. After we become Christians, it doesn’t feel right to go look for a partner in places like bars, as an example. So what should we do?
Here are some simple steps:
Start by being passionately in love with God, always learning to love Him, and be 100% fulfilled by God. We don’t need a partner to be fulfilled, we have everything we need in God alone. (Colossians 2:10)
To develop our passion for God, we need to be surrounded with passionate Christians, people that have a firm understanding of the Bible. By attending church regularly, and participating in a prayer or Bible study group, that should be easy.
Then, we need to start serving God with our talents. At least once a week, we should have a time where we make our faith grow (by receiving) and a time where we serve with our time and talents.
By participating regularly in our assembly and serving the church, we will meet new people: married and single. It’s a great time to make a new group of friends. The friends we had before we gave our lives to God will not encourage us to find a partner with Christian values. That’s why it’s essential to make a new group of Christian friends. Plan one night out with those new friends just to have fun.
As with all new friends, we develop a deeper friendship with some. So take a special time and tell them about what you are looking for in a future partner, and they can help you.
At this stage there are potential matches in the Church, in a prayer or study group, in our service, and new friends. A good pool of possible matches! If after one or two years of serious searching, the pool of matches looks empty, there are more opportunities. Participate in various social activities offered by the Church, or online on respectable Christian websites.
Always keep in mind that our relationship with God is and always will be the most important relationship. Married or not, God doesn’t change and will not abandon us. It’s good to look for a partner, but it’s even better to seek God. Let’s not forget that. (1 Corinthians 7.8-9)