We are bombarded with messages about idyllic love. In the movies, a man meets a woman, and after a glance, they fall deeply in love. Does love at first sight exist? Yes, but contrary to what the media tells us, we must avoid it at all costs!

Butterflies in your stomach, your heart beating faster, a shy smile … Is this love? Not according to the Bible. The best definition of love is in 1 Corinthians 13. Love is patient, kind, does not envy, or boast is not proud. It does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. In short, love is not a feeling, it is a decision. So according to God, love isn’t emotional!

Cupid is often portrayed as an angel, but isn’t mentioned anywhere in the Bible! What we feel are wonderful emotions that blind us, as the saying goes. God doesn’t want us to make decisions based on our emotions. So when our heart starts beating faster, it’s important to take a deep breath and stay calm.

There is nothing wrong with our hearts beating faster because we met someone, but those emotions should not take over our thoughts so that we forget God and His calling in our lives. After a few weeks of meeting with someone who you feel is a good match, analyzed the possible relationship. Only after we know that the attachment is mutual can we can let our hearts surrender to these beautiful feelings, slowly. As Song of Solomon 8.4 (NIV) says “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”

Take your time before you give into your feelings. The Bible does not encourage love at first sight at all.