This week, I want to honor my best friend, whom I affectionately nicknamed “Cupcake”. She just got engaged and learned a great lesson in the process of finding her sweetheart, one that many singles should follow.
Cupcake is 38 years old. She has never been married, and never even dated a guy. She gave her life to God a good fifteen years ago and prayed to meet the love of her life for several years. But nothing. And this year, God showed me why.
As we already mentioned in another post, the idea of a soulmate is false. It’s not biblical. God never said that there is only one person that we were destined to marry. And that’s good news, it means that if we miss a good match, there is still hope for us to meet another good one.
The reason God saved us, is not to answer all our prayers and demands. It is to grow His Kingdom. Since He is obviously a good caring father, He loves to bless His children and often gives them what they ask for. When it is in His will.
God creates many opportunities for us to serve Him, to use our talents to grow and strengthen His Kingdom. When we decide to take these opportunities to serve Him, God often takes that opportunity to slip in a beautiful blessing. Just think of the story of Ruth!
In the case of “Cupcake” God showed me that she had to use her talents to participate in a mission trip this year. He also showed me that during this project, He would put a charming young man on her path. When I said to God, “it’s about time, she’s 38 years old!” God told me it was the fifth time He proposed a project to her, and each time He had planned for her to meet a charming young man. She was still single because she refused to do those projects. Saying it was too much effort, or that it was messing up her day-to-day routine. If she had agreed to serve God by answering His call, she would have been married a long time ago!
What a shock! I strongly encouraged her to do a missionary trip this year (without telling her what God had shown me), and it was while planning for her trip that she met her sweetheart. Now they are engaged!
It is very important to answer God’s calling. We must serve Him with all our heart, and use our talents for His service. Then while serving, God will bless us. It’s not necessarily going to be by meeting “the one” (God does not act the same way for everyone), but it will certainly be a good way to train us to be a become a better match. Remember this lesson. Don’t serve God in order to obtain favors, but know that all the effort and time that you will invest in His kingdom will never be lost (1 Cor. 15.58).