It’s hard to miss social media these days. Who doesn’t have a Facebook or Twitter account, or a few albums on Instagram? What you display on these sites says a lot about who you are, and what kind of partner you are looking for.
Several years ago when a man was interested in a woman, he kept a certain distance and went to talk to her colleagues or friends to learn about her. Today, instead of talking to those around her, he will more than likely look up her Facebook page. This is even more discreet, but just as informative. What does your profile say about you?
If a young woman shares a lot of posts on weddings and likes an article about “five qualities of a good husband”, or comments with a big “amen!” under a “prophecy” that says all the singles that comment will find a husband this month. What do you think a man learns from this profile? That this young woman will probably start planning the wedding at the first smile! A profile will push men away because of what she publishes, demonstrates how desperate she is to be married or she find a perfect husband. There is nothing wrong with publishing words of encouragement for a life together, but if it’s the only thing we find on your profile, it’s not a good sign!
An older man came to see my husband and I and told us that he was looking for a Christian woman with “good values” and a burning fire for God. He had children from a previous marriage, and he hoped that this new woman would be a good mother to them. Do you see the beautiful criteria that shows he is a man after God’s heart? Not so fast! On one of his social profiles, he was proudly showing pictures of him with young women lightly clothed, and sexual jokes. No woman of God would want to approach such a man.
If you want a woman of God or a future pastor, look at your profile. Does your profile look like it belongs to a future husband of a woman of God, or the future wife of a pastor? By looking at your profile, what kind of partner do you see ending up with? If you want to have a sanctified marriage, anointed by God you must start with your own life. Your electronic footprint should reflect who you really are.
Finally, you don’t need to have an account on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. However since these tools are part of many people’s live, if you don’t have one, it might be considered suspicious. Maybe you are really bad with computers, or maybe you have something to hide! It’s ok to not be part of a social network, a person who is really interested in you will use other means to get to know you. However prepare yourself, you will have to explain your choices. It goes the same for those who have a profile name that has nothing to do with their real name. People may wonder if you are avoiding someone, and why? You might have to explain yourself as well.
In short, your electronic footprint speaks about you; so be careful about what you post. Take time to analyze your photos and what you encourage: perhaps you will find some behavior you should change or a habit you need to improve.