Tiny, cute winks, first kisses, a commitment, then… a broken heart. Some love stories end on a sour note. We’re wounded, then it’s difficult for us to love again. Difficult, but not impossible!
Yes, love exists because God is love. When a man’s heart burns with love for the Lord and he meets a woman who is also passionate for her Savior, a healthy relationship can be built. A solid base will support it : God.
God is love, but He is the only one who is perfect. So even if people are passionate for Christ, they can make mistakes, can give up their faith. Or even destroy the relationship they had started to build, leaving deep wounds on both parties.
For some time after, we stay away from couples, we despise fairy tales, and we refuse to dream of love stories. Then we start desiring to be in a relationship again, but we’re still too hurt to make a few steps in that direction. So what to do? Here are two very important steps.
1-Forgive your “ex”
It is through forgiveness that you will find healing. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting everything and continuing on as if nothing has happened: we must learn from our suffering. (On this subject, read this article) Forgiveness means that you let God take care of any vengeance or retribution, then you give your heart to God so that He can heal it and bring it back to a healthy state. Like it was before being injured.
For this, you will also need to :
2-Forgive yourself
You may feel betrayed, but you may also feel ashamed. The shame of having believed in this love story, or anger against yourself regarding your own mistakes. To be able to love again, you must first be able to “love yourself” again. If you beat yourself up constantly over your mistakes or if you believe all the evil things that the other person said about you, you will never rebuild yourself.
Have you made mistakes? Well yes, everyone has. Christ died on the cross to erase your mistakes: accept what He has already paid for! To repent means to turn away from your sins, and to take the right path so you don’t make those mistakes again. You acted badly, okay, but now you know what “not to do”, choose not to walk this path again. If Christ has forgiven you, who are you to be resentful of yourself!
Yes, the perfect God, the God of love, the God of forgiveness, can give you a new heart. You will be ready to love again. It’s not a wonderful woman or an amazing man that will make you believe in love again. Only the healing that flows from the Cross can do so. It will not be easy but start in that direction. The flower garden is located on the other side of the fence, blocked by your anger.