Maybe your church is small and you aren’t interested in anyone there. Or maybe you are in a big church, but you still haven’t found someone that makes your heart beat faster. Should you change churches to increase your chances of finding “the one”?

The answer to this question is simple : no! If you are going to a church to meet someone, you are not going to church for the right reason. Following the same line of thought, no one should switch churches just to find a possible partner.

When we choose a church, we must first consider the foundation of this church (Eph 2.20). Does it glorify the name of Jesus? Who is the most important figure: Christ or the “pastor”? Are the messages based on biblical passages or philosophies (Col. 2.8)? And if they are based on the Bible, does the teacher use verses out of context or do they use exactly what the Bible teaches, without diluting the truth?

Then look at the church hierarchy. Is it inspired by the early church (Act. 15.4)? What are the goals that the leadership has set for that church? Do you agree with their direction? How do they invest the finances of the church (Gal. 2.10)? Then, look at the members : do you feel comfortable with them, would you be willing to develop friendships there? Are they in unity with the leadership (Heb. 13.17)? Keep these questions in mind and remember that there is no perfect church.

Finally, you should look at yourself. “Do I see myself serving in this church? Are there any needs that I would be keen to meet?” Because we go to church not to just sit there and receive, but to help. A local church is the extension of our family. This is where we will invest our time, talents and money to make the Kingdom of God move forward (Heb 6.10). We go to church to grow spiritually. But growth comes not only from what we hear but what we practice (Matt. 7.24). You will learn more about Christ and about being filled with the Spirit by serving others than sitting quietly in your seat.

That’s why we go to church. To make the Kingdom of God move forward. This is where we will be formed, broken and rebuilt properly. According to the statistics, we compiled last year, only 10% of married couples met the love of their life in their local church. There are many benefits to meeting your spouse in the same church, but we shouldn’t go to a local church just to meet someone.

“How will I meet my future wife or husband then?” God has a thousand ways to answer your prayer. He might inspire you to participate in a Christian activity outside of your church (as long as this activity does not prevent you from participating in your assembly). Or, God will inspire you to participate in a class where another Christian people will attend. Or…well God is the Creator of the Universe! He knows everything and He has so many ideas on how to answer a prayer! Just trust Him, and obey Him when He leads you somewhere.

Then, after you meet your special person, if they are not in the same church as you, you will need to decide on which church to attend so you will both grow as a married couple. But that is a subject for another post!