Hey, men: this week, we are talking to you! You know what you want from a woman, but do you know what women are looking for in a man? In short, are you the man that women are looking for?

A few weeks ago, Passion374 launched a survey on social media to find out the criteria that men and women want when looking for a partner. Then we used these results to present a workshop on the subject and the reactions to that event gave us the idea to present to you what we have learned on our blog. This week we are speaking to men. Next week, it will be the ladies’ turn.

Obviously, every woman is different. Our survey is far from having covered all the criteria and exceptions to all the women of this world! Not to mention that women change their opinions very often. If she likes walks in nature today, she may hate them tomorrow! So, we cannot reveal to you the ultimate secret to satisfying a woman: only God knows! (Women don’t really know it either!)

On the other hand, there are several recurring points from the women that responded. If you are a wise man, you should take note of these points and make sure you develop these points!

1. Christian women want a man that listens to God
   They were all unanimous on this point. Christian women not only want a man who wears the name of “Christian”, but a man who listens to the Holy Spirit and has a personal relationship with God. Most women also love a man who serves in his church, whether it is for teaching, security, or even placing chairs and guiding people to their seats. A man that is active in his church will attract the respect of a Christian woman. If you are not faithful to your church, if you are not an active member of a community, change that right now! (Read this other article on this topic.)

2. Women want a man who works, is resourceful and responsible
   The vast majority of women need reassurance on a daily basis. They can develop little insecurities, and they are looking for a form of stability. Today’s women know very well that the man they will meet might have some debt, although she prefers a positive financial situation. What reassures her is not the fortune a man has, but the way he manages it. Women do not want a lazy man, but hardworking and resourceful. They want a man who takes responsibility for the financial stability of his family. “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8 NIV). If you do not have a job, or change every month, fix this! (Read this other articleon this topic.)

3. A man who cares and listens
   Our survey showed that women prefer men who are gentle and are able to listen to them. They do not want an authoritarian man. God has called them to be a helper, not a slave. The Word of God asks the men to be gentle with their wives. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7 NIV). So start adopting this attitude with women before you even get married. Be a good brother for your sisters in Christ. Protect them, listen to them, take care of them and be helpful. This will certainly catch their attention.

4. A faithful, undivided heart
   When we asked women about the fault they hated the most about a man, once again they were unanimous. Women do not like a man who flirts right and left, with all women. Being charming is good, but courting all women, giving lewd compliments to at all is an attitude that discourages a woman. Remember, women seek stability, and they will want a faithful husband, as the Bible says. “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well” (1 Timothy 3:12 NIV). So single men who make sweet eyes to all the surrounding women are dangerous and women are taught to avoid them at all cost. “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28 NIV).

5. A man, not a teenager
   Finally, even though most women may be maternal, they do not want to be maternal with their partner. “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24 NIV). Women will be attracted to a man who knows how to take responsibility, who knows how to take care of himself and who is able to make decisions. They are looking for a man who has a vision of his future, a plan for his life, and who knows where he is going. You do not need to know everything but start by developing self-confidence. Also, clean your car or your apartment, it will certainly be a very attractive feature!