Then here are some questions to discuss:
A survey done a few years ago (but the results of which are still relevant) shows a very different observation between non-Christian singles and Christian singles who are looking for a partner. According to the survey results, non-Christians go on average about 1 or 2 dates per month; while Christian singles have 1 or 2 dates… per year! Do you think these numbers actually represent the situation of single people? If yes, why; if not why? (We are talking here about singles that are looking for a partner, not those who are fine being alone.)
Why do you think it is more difficult for Christian singles to go on a date (“Do you want to go for a coffee?”)?
The study raised 5 reasons. So let’s talk about it. The first reason would be “unrealistic expectations” of Christian singles. Why do Christians have a longer list of criteria than non-Christians? Do you find that Christians have too many criteria?
The second reason given by respondents is that Christians take the whole process too seriously. Do you find it difficult to just “go for coffee” with another single person, without considering the whole process towards marriage? Do you find that Christians think too much?
The whole dating process is sometimes taught in a very traditional way in churches. What restraints do you feel the church places on you? Are these restraints protecting you or shackling you?
The third reason highlighted by respondents is that Christians always wait for the other to take the first steps. Women expect men to invite them over, and men expect women to show interest. Are you comfortable taking the first steps? If yes why, if not why?
A fourth reason is that Christians… don’t seek. Some singles don’t dare say they want to find a partner, they don’t even want to talk about it. What explains the discomfort that some Christian singles have in “confessing” that they desire a husband or a wife?
Finally, another reason underlined in the study is that single Christians have difficulty finding each other, that there is a lack of opportunity for singles to meet. What could be done to increase dating opportunities? (We need more of…)
Now that we have identified the reasons why it is more difficult for Christian singles to meet a future partner, brainstorm solutions together (or summarize the solutions you have already found).
Some prayer points to conclude:
Ask the Holy Spirit for help to overcome discomfort or comfort
Ask the Holy Spirit for creativity to find activities to meet other people…
… And of course, please pray for Passion374! Thank you!
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