Then here are some questions to discuss:
Being single is not a disease or a problem to be fixed. There is nothing wrong with not being in a relationship it is even a blessing to live alone and be happy in this state. Let’s go around the table here are you comfortable in your single state? Or would you rather be in a relationship? Why?
Some people want to be in a relationship but say that they don’t feel ready for it. What could we change or improve to be “ready” to look for a partner? What could be in our lives that needs to be addressed before we start looking?
We sometimes hear married people tell singles not to worry, that “God is preparing them to meet their partner”. Is it God who is preparing us to meet someone, or is it our responsibility? Explain your answer.
If we believe that we need to prepare ourselves to look for a partner, what are the signs that confirm that we are finally ready to take steps in this direction? How do we know if we are finally ready?
Some singles will say that they are not ready when in fact, they are only afraid of being in a relationship or even afraid to look. What other reasons could be hidden behind the excuse “I am not ready”? And how do we know if we are not ready or if it is just an excuse that we give ourselves?
What do you do if you are interested in a lovely single person and they say, “No, I’m not ready for a relationship”?
What do you do if a single person expresses interest in you and says they are in love with you, but you know they are not ready for a relationship? (For example, if they are newly separated and not yet divorced.) Can you say, “No, you’re not ready”? Or do you need to help them to “be ready”? What do you do?
There are other areas where we sometimes use this excuse, such as when God asks us to serve Him in ministry. How should we prepare ourselves to serve God, and when can we say we are finally ready to serve in ministry?
If we tell God that we are not ready to serve Him, what real reasons could be behind this excuse? (You can read the story of Gideon for inspiration in Judges 6:11-18.)
The same is true of forgiveness. Sometimes people say, “I’m not ready to forgive him.” Is it possible that we are not ready to forgive? And if so, what are the conditions necessary for us to be ready to forgive?
Some prayer points to conclude:
Let us ask for the assistance of the Holy Spirit to make us better potential partners.
Let us give God all our excuses so that He can help us address the real reasons for our doubts.
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