The book of Deuteronomy is Moses’ last pep-talk before Israel enters the Promised Land. His speech often repeats the same advice: “Remember”. If we can’t wait to get out of our relationship wilderness, maybe we should apply this message too!

Children are impulsive. Often parents have to stop them by saying: “Think about what you are doing!” As adults, are we very different from them? Yet God’s Word says that our success lies in these moments of reflection.

Inevitably, since I talk about so many topics revolving around “how to find the one,” I often get comments such as, “You should not look for the one. Just live your life and let the person come to you naturally” Statements like this have some truth in them. However, this oversimplification can get you into a lot of confusing passivity.

We ask God for a particular solution, and we get silence. We can even end up asking: “Where is God?” No one can explain all the reasons for these silences, but here are some ideas to encourage you.

Like a good gardener, God is not only concerned with the seed that is His Word but also with the soil of our hearts, with the watering of His Spirit, etc. For healthy spiritual growth, we need both knowledge and experience.